Health Discussion en http://backend.userland.com/rss /view_topic.php?pid=432#432 432@ Topic: Anger Management…Jack Nicholson Cracked It, Now its Your Turn Message: Hi all. Last month I watched Jack Nicholson starrer (what an actor! A delight for psychologists for his choice of roles…the crazier the better!) ‘Anger Management’, pretty late you might say. Quite intriguing, not the movie (it was a whole bunch of not so funny jokes,) but the topic, it did touch some raw nerves, this being current hot topic of discussion in the psychology fraternity.Being a psychology teacher I receive a lot of queries these days about this anger management stuff. I am not really surprised given today’s competitive, deadline ridden environment. It results in lots of stress no matter if you are winner or loser. In this stress ridden world we are becoming more and more intolerant. We are forgetting the basic tenet “To err is human” leading to uncontrollable anger. This anger can result in:•    Broken marriages and other family relationships off-course.•    Lost business.•    Vicious cycle of anger leading to increased stress and vice versa.•    Mistakes because anger makes it harder to process information.Being a theoretician and (sometimes) practitioner of psychology I can safely suggest following steps to keep the temper in check:•    Talk about your feelings - find a trusted friend or adult to help you one-on-one basis.•    Whatever you do - express criticism, disappointment, anger or displeasure -  Express yourself calmly without losing your temper or fighting. Ask yourself if your response is safe and reasonable.•    Listen carefully and respond without getting upset when someone gives you negative feedback. Ask yourself if you can really see the other person's point of view.•    Work out your problems with someone else by looking at alternative solutions and compromises.This is just a glimpse to what are the implications and solutions to the uncontrolled temper. For detailed discussion on stress management, anger management tips, online psychotherapy visit [url=http://www.biam.org.uk]www.biam.org.uk[/url]. In my next posting I will cover anger management techniques for kids. Wed, 12 Sep 2007 06:37:37 -0400 /view_topic.php?pid=378#378 378@ Topic: please help with my anger problem Message: Fighting with anger is just defending you from unwanted behavior. Its all about you. Seems you are well confident for that. Try to understand the fact behind your anger. If its really worrisome, take it easy. Make a plan. Its important that everyone’s situation is different and step to be taken best by you. It will make you more confident to cope your every anger situation. Here you will get some helpful tricks to step ahead :http://www.ndri.com/forum/t20-im-just-so-angry.html Tue, 26 Jun 2007 20:35:01 -0400 /view_topic.php?pid=373#373 373@ Topic: please help with my anger problem Message: [b][/b]hi, my name is michael and im from san antonio texas, well, i have a very bad anger problem. im easily able to get mad for the smallest things. i fear that it was because i got released from prison from a 2 year term last year in june. now im so angry with every thing like if it doesnt fit me right i need to et mad. i dont like this at all and i want to change. i have a lovely gf and son and dont want to be giving them more problems than i already have. i don hit them or anything like that but i sometimes yell and make her feel bad and somtimes cause her to cry. please give me some helpful tips on what i can do that will help. the thing is...i check my email with my cell phone, so i cant really see web pages; im at the library right now; so if some one can please email me with some helpful hints asap to michaelsaenz (at) att.net. thanks for all your time. Thu, 21 Jun 2007 17:52:11 -0400 /view_topic.php?pid=260#260 260@ Topic: emotional experience survey Message: Here is your chance to participate in some interesting research. We are a group of clinical researchers conducting a world wide research study into the way people experience feelings. We welcome responses from everyone between the ages of 18-65 years. Should you choose to volunteer, click on the link below and you will be presented with a multiple choice questionnaire, which will take around 20-25 minutes to complete. Please answer all questions. All responses are anonymous and the results of this study will be posted on Survey Monkey in August 2007.  This research has been approved by an ethics committee and your responses will contribute greatly to our understanding of the way people experience emotions and the differences and similarities between groups of the population. Sat, 03 Mar 2007 15:04:05 -0500 /view_topic.php?pid=219#219 219@ Topic: info about loratadine Message: I am really worried about the medications of many people use... thats the reason because show that theme to you... The Drugs like the LORATADINEthe most important things about LoratadineLoratadine is used to relieve hay fever and allergy symptoms, including sneezing; runny nose; and red, itchy, tearing eyes. Loratadine is in a class of medications called antihistamines. It works by blocking histamine, a substance in the body that causes allergic symptoms. Loratadine may cause less drowsiness than other antihistamines.In the same calification we can find drugs likeFlonase is a steroid. It prevents the release of substances in the body that cause inflammation, is used to treat the nasal symptoms of allergies and other seasonal reactions.,may also be used for purposes other than those listed in this medication guide.Use Flonase spray exactly as directed by your doctor. Read the information insert included with your medication. If you do not understand these instructions, ask your pharmacist, nurse, or doctor to explain them to you.To use the nasal spray:Shake the bottle gently and then remove the dust cover,It is necessary to prime the pump into the air the first time it is used, or when you have not used it for a week or more. To prime the pump, hold the bottle with the nasal applicator pointing away from you and with your forefinger and middle finger on either side of the nasal applicator and your thumb underneath the bottle. Press down and release the pump three to four times until a fine spray appears. The pump is now ready to use,Blow your nose to clear your nostrils,the fioricet is a pain reliever and fever reducer.is in a class of drugs called barbiturates that slow down your central nervous system (brain and nerve impulses) causing relaxation.is believed to constrict dilated blood vessels that may contribute to tension headaches.Together, acetaminophen, butalbital, and caffeine are used to relieve complex tension (muscle contraction) headaches although precisely how it works is unknown.Fioricet may also be used for purposes other than those listed in this medication guide.Amoxicillin is used to treat certain infections caused by bacteria, such as pneumonia; bronchitis; gonorrhea; and infections of the ears, nose, throat, urinary tract, and skin. It is also used in combination with other medications to eliminate H. pylori, a bacteria that causes ulcers. Amoxicillin is in a class of medications called penicillin-like antibiotics. It works by stopping the growth of bacteria. Antibiotics will not work for colds, flu, and other viral infections.Amoxicillin comes as a capsule, a tablet, a chewable tablet, a suspension (liquid), and pediatric drops to take by mouth. It is usually taken every 12 hours (twice a day) or every 8 hours (three times a day) with or without food. To help you remember to take amoxicillin, take it around the same time every day.Have a great day. Mon, 22 Jan 2007 13:54:03 -0500 /view_topic.php?pid=144#144 144@ Topic: I'm just so angry... Message: First, your anger is obviously very real, and if you father used to beat you, I think this is the origin of the pain/anger.I have no solution as I deal with Anger myself.   It is not as physically severe as you describe your to be but it is real nevertheless and comes with a sense of hopelessness.I have health concerns that my anger will eventually casue life threatening illness in my body/heart,etc.   I am 50 years old and would prefer to make the make the most of the time I have left on this planet, however my anger is really in the way. Fri, 27 Oct 2006 13:41:50 -0400 /view_topic.php?pid=98#98 98@ Topic: i don't know what to do anymore. pleasehelp! Message: It sounds like you might want to try being more assertive than aggressive. If something someone says or does is bugging you, you can say a couple of sentences to them, like"When you ...(insert problem)....it makes me feel ....(insert how their speech/action affects you)...I would appreciate it if you ....(insert proposed solution)...."but do this in a calm manner. It shows you understand the situation, and lets others know your feelings so hopefully they will respect those feelings.Hope this helps. Mon, 02 Oct 2006 05:10:57 -0400 /view_topic.php?pid=94#94 94@ Topic: i don't know what to do anymore. pleasehelp! Message: to start off. i'm 13 years old. and i found this site through a search on google,  " What can I do when I'm angry to calm myself down? ". but anyway. i really feel that i have some major anger issues. i get angry about the smallest things. i feel like my family are getting sick of me because of my anger. i live with my mother and grandparents. i am mostly home with my grandma and therefore we have the most issues between each other. she is always nagging me! she'll repeat herself over and over and i can't help but get angry! she also calls me stupid little names like bunny and sweetheart and that just really gets me angry. do you have any advice on what i can do to not get so angry with her??my family also tells me i have a tone when i speak to them. sometimes if someone tells me something i don't want to hear like "go feed the cat or go do this" i'll say okay with a bit of an attitude because i think thats just how i am. and i get grounded for it.     i really hate it when i don't have a tone and my mother will say i have one! and then i get REALLY angry and start yelling.  do you maybe have any suggestions about what i can do to maybe not have a tone or get upset so easily when i'm told to do something??i really do not know what to do anymore. i feel that my family is falling apart because of me, so if you can help in any way please do. i just dont want my anger to be the reason my family falls apart :[ Fri, 29 Sep 2006 20:05:26 -0400 /view_topic.php?pid=87#87 87@ Topic: People think I am crazy....so do I. Message: Hello hay2006,Here's a really great article that will help you a lot with dealing with anger. [url=http://article.abc-directory.com/article/745]http://article.abc-directory.com/article/745[/url] Mon, 25 Sep 2006 03:02:41 -0400 /view_topic.php?pid=86#86 86@ Topic: People think I am crazy....so do I. Message: Hey people, This is my first post I am 21 and as I have been reading other peoples posts, I realise I am not alone with the problems I have. I am unsure of where I fit in with my anger problems. I thought it was just a bad temper and just a teenager thing when I was younger but its getting worse and I hate it. The slightest thing can tip me over the egde into a rage. The worst thing is if I can't find something that I know is in the house and can't remember where I put it. I will start to throw tihngs, shoutand swear because I get so angry that I can't find it. Or if the house is a mess and my bf is usually the culprit he gets the flack for it but I go over the top. I seem to be ruining all aspects of my life with my temper/anger issues. Even at work, I get angry at the most ridiculous things and my work colleagues mock me for it. I know this because I went out of the room and came back in after having a fit of rage and they were talking about me. I don't blame them at all but I hate getting angry over the most simple things. I have punched walls and the throwing of things helps me feel a little better but not totally. I havent hit anyone but I don't want it to get that far, I feel like Jekyll & Hyde Do these things sound familiar? All advice & storys are appreciated. Sun, 24 Sep 2006 04:10:53 -0400 /view_topic.php?pid=71#71 71@ Topic: I'm just so angry... Message: Hello Daax,You said that you live in a good household with supportive parents, so your father can't be all that bad. Have you tried talking these things over with your parents? They sound like they'd be reasonable and try to figure something out that everyone could be happy with. Also I think that you need to learn to truly relax your body. So here's a page to really help you with that. [url=http://shs.wustl.edu/healthPromotion/relaxationTechniques.htm]http://shs.wustl.edu/healthPromotion/relaxationTechniques.htm[/url] Tue, 19 Sep 2006 06:22:03 -0400 /view_topic.php?pid=35#35 35@ Topic: I'm just so angry... Message: :)Daax, its really scaring  ur way of thinking. How did u forget this person is ur father to whom u want to beat? Except those things whatever make u angry try to remember ur those early childhood days. Certainly u were the most beloved one for him. In this world nothing can be limited between this parents and son relationship. I am sure after few days u must be repented for this time. Pl take it easy. its just for ur age.Here are some Strategies that might be helpful to to keep anger at bay:1. Relaxation : Simple relaxation tools, such as deep breathing and relaxing imagery, can help calm down angry feelings. Some simple steps you can try: •    Breathe deeply, from your diaphragm; breathing from your chest won't relax you. Picture your breath coming up from your "gut." •    Slowly repeat a calm word or phrase such as "relax," "take it easy." Repeat it to yourself while breathing deeply. •    Use imagery; visualize a relaxing experience, from either your memory or your imagination. •    Nonstrenuous, slow yoga-like exercises can relax your muscles and make you feel much calmer. Practice these techniques daily. Learn to use them automatically when you're in a tense situation. 2. Cognitive Restructuring Simply put, this means changing the way you think. Angry people tend to curse, swear, or speak in highly colorful terms that reflect their inner thoughts. When you're angry, your thinking can get very exaggerated and overly dramatic. Try replacing these thoughts with more rational ones. For instance, instead of telling yourself. Be careful of words like "never" or "always" when talking about yourself or someone else. Remind yourself that getting angry is not going to fix anything, that it won't make you feel better. Logic defeats anger, because anger, even when it's justified, can quickly become irrational. So use cold hard logic on yourself.Say,  "I would like" something is healthier than saying, "I demand" or "I must have" something. When you're unable to get what you want, you will experience the normal reactions—frustration, disappointment, hurt—but not anger. Some angry people use this anger as a way to avoid feeling hurt, but that doesn't mean the hurt goes away.3. Problem Solving Sometimes, our anger and frustration are caused by very real and inescapable problems in our lives. Not all anger is misplaced, and often it's a healthy, natural response to these difficulties. There is also a cultural belief that every problem has a solution, and it adds to our frustration to find out that this isn't always the case. The best attitude to bring to such a situation, then, is not to focus on finding the solution, but rather on how you handle and face the problem. 4. Better Communication Angry people tend to jump to—and act on—conclusions, and some of those conclusions can be very inaccurate. The first thing to do if you're in a heated discussion is slow down and think through your responses. Don't say the first thing that comes into your head, but slow down and think carefully about what you want to say. At the same time, listen carefully to what the other person is saying and take your time before answering. 5. Using Humor "Silly humor" can help defuse rage in a number of ways. For one thing, it can help you get a more balanced perspective. When you get angry and call someone a name or refer to them in some imaginative phrase, stop and picture what that word would literally look like. If you're at work and you think of a coworker as a "dirtbag" or a "single-cell life form," for example, picture a large bag full of dirt (or an amoeba) sitting at your colleague's desk, talking on the phone, going to meetings. Do this whenever a name comes into your head about another person. If you can, draw a picture of what the actual thing might look like. This will take a lot of the edge off your fury; and humor can always be relied on to help unknot a tense situation. 6. Changing Your Environment Sometimes it's our immediate surroundings that give us cause for irritation and fury. Problems and responsibilities can weigh on you and make you feel angry at the "trap" you seem to have fallen into and all the people and things that form that trap. Give yourself a break. Make sure you have some "personal time" scheduled for times of the day that you know are particularly stressful. Good luck. Sat, 09 Sep 2006 10:00:23 -0400 /view_topic.php?pid=31#31 31@ Topic: I'm just so angry... Message: I feel I have alot of problems, like alot of you. And I'm not sure where to begin. But I'll try. I'll start by telling about myself. I am a 17 year old boy. I live in good household with supportive parents. Lately, I've been feeling nothing but a mix of hopelessness yet a nagging urge to survive, and a strong rage but a mild compassion and understanding to why I am angry. I always get angry when I lose. At anything. And I get more than angry. I get completely and totally enraged. I also get angry at my father. He used to spank me alot when I was little and still makes threats to me all the time and it's so degrading yet I never fight back because I don't want to get kicked out of the house. But it just eats at me. So, I play alot of online computer games to distract myself from him and the rest of the world that I feel is just out there to purposely piss me off. But distracting myself with games doesn't work either. Because I get angry if I lose even once. I feel if I can't win then I'm a failure. And if I'm a failure I have no purpose to exist in this world. And that gets me angry. But it's just so much more than anger. It's like this deep pit of hatred for the world that just continues to eat at me everyday. And when I feel it start to come over me I can barely control it. I start to clench up all my muscles and ball my fists. My teeth start gritting and my whole body just starts tightening like it's being squeezed. I start to lose my hearing until all I hear is this static noice like a continuous beeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeep. The whites of my eyes begin to turn red as does my skin. Soon my skin turns purple and I just can't stop myself. If I hold on for too long my nose or pores will start to bleed. And the worst part of it is, I like it. It's like this feeling of freedom washing over me like I'm no longer bound to the rules of this world. But I can't ever fully release my anger because I turn violent. the thing I want most right now is to beat the hell out of my father and make him pay. Make him pay for all the sh** he does to me and the antagnozing he does at me. Just egging me on. I want to beat his face in until he's a twitching pulp of bloody flesh. I want him to beg for mercy and for me to stop like I did when I was little and he used to beat me. Thu, 07 Sep 2006 08:08:26 -0400 /view_topic.php?pid=7#7 7@ Topic: Need Anger Management Strategies And Advice Message: I was once told to count to ten which is certainly a good idea. Being angry is not good for health and causes to become stressed, to become depressed and to lose sleep.If you firmly believe in God then you do not need to seek any form of revenge as he will be judge and jury on judgement day. Wed, 30 Aug 2006 14:51:31 -0400 /view_topic.php?pid=5#5 5@ Topic: Need Anger Management Strategies And Advice Message: I used to easily become angry and could not believe the way certain people were treating me. I wanted to teach them a lesson which would help them to mend their ways. The only way I could think of responding was by shouting at them, threatening them or by using violence against them. Wed, 30 Aug 2006 14:40:45 -0400