I keep looking all over the internet for advice about how to get out of this rut, and the advice always includes that you should confide in someone you can trust, or spend time with other people. But I don't have anyone at all, not even someone to get coffee with. I stay in my room all day or I go to the library. I basically have no family, no boyfriend, and no friends. I do not have the energy to construct a social life right now. I always seem to end up very isolated and I cant exactly figure out why. Am I choosing the wrong friends and/or am I a bad person? Is it because my parents were always isolated and I am copying this behavior? Anyway, I just feel lonely and depressed, and it is a bad mix. Has anyone else ever ended up in a situation where they had absolutely no one to spend time with? This loneliness also makes it hard for me to deal with a lot of the issues that cause me anxiety-I just don't have a support network. I know it would be really healing for me to be around someone nice and understanding. I worry about scaring others away though. I know that this isolation is part of the reason I am so depressed in the first place. Mornings are especially tough...

hi gomen

I know depression and anxiety can be extremely isolating you think no one else suffers. they do. do you live in england. if you do you could get in contact with your local MIND i know it will be a big step forward, however they have social clubs or drop in centres which you can attend everyday if you like and be around people like yourself in a safe enviroment. you can stay for as long as your like and they will understand your problems and have someone to talk to like yourself. the staff also can put you in contact with appropriate organizations for professional help. it will be a long road. at first you may not like being around people however this may change as the people are similiar to yourself. take one step at a time. hope to of been of some help. keep posting on here its good to talk about your feelings. and your right keeping yourself isolated is keeping yourself in the situation.

good luck.

I realize that this reply is quite late, but I just stumbled upon this website. I don't know if you will ever read this, but I hope that you do. I want you to know that I understand the feelings of depression and the loneliness that often accompanies it. I also understand how easy, and yet at the same time difficult, it is to isolate yourself from the world. If you ever need to talk to somebody, please email me. I don't know where you live, but I would love to be your friend, even if it is just through email.

Also, because I have gone through these feelings, you don't ever have to worry about scaring me away.

I feel the same way you do. I have friends, but they aren't really friends. Because of my attitude, along with depression, anxiety attacks, and the fact that I am diagnosed with Bipolar disorder, it makes life very tough. Hang in there. Life DOES get better.. its just a matter of holding on, and getting through the rough times.

Try just not worrying about the fact you are depressed, and be yourself around others. This I have learned is the best method of making friends, or possibly finding that certain someone. Its important to talk about your problems with only those who understand, like us for example... that way you don't tend to be "too open" about whats really going on. Communication is the key. You will feel much better when people are involved. Trust me. :)