I know this is a common problem faced by many but fear to admit..But I have the courage to admit this and am seeking a solution to this problem. I CANNOT stand in a group of people mainly from higher standards and address a gathering. I have tried all possible solutions but none work...Anybody to help? How about Xanax pills?

The fear is possibly "stage fright". A solution that I know worked at least once was through preparation for the performance. The difficult aspect is to have the time and circumstances to practice your address (act) repeatedly, "drill", over and over with a nearby mirror and/or trusted friend onhand. Repeat the drill until it becomes a reflex so nothing can stop you from completeing the performance. Leave no detail to chance.
Drill, drill, and drill again.

twinkle

Hi,

Your "fear of public speaking" post is well placed, as it is a form of anxiety. In fact, there's a popular anxiety program that is often used to handle fear of public speaking.. However, I would imagine that other anxiety management approaches would also be beneficial to you.

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Earlier in my life I had a fear of speaking, and I took Inderal -- a real low dose -- about a half hour before I had to go to the microphone.  Inderal is typically (I think)given for high blood pressure (which I didn't have), but it helped me relax yet maintain a "clear head" .... which helped me more easily and mindfully build a fair amount of the self-confidence I needed by the time I had to speak.  Maybe you could talk it over with your doctor...see if he or she will give you a prescription for a just a few Inderal ...and then you could try one at home, and see what the effect for you would be if you took it before you went in front of a group.  I am sure that there wouldn't be a doctor out there who would want/let you to take this drug on any kind of regular basis, BUT you don't need it on a regular basis because your stress is relatively short term....so, depending on any other health issues you may have going on, maybe you could take it just occasionally for your speaking fear....??  Also,...you wondered about Xanax....Yes, I think Xanax and drugs like that can make a person feel relaxed, but I also think they make a person feel a bit "fuzzy" and "indifferent" to what's going on around them.  You, though, don't want those fuzzy and indifferent feelings because you need to be sharp and alert in front of your group, and I think Inderal will allow that.  It did for me.